Midwife * Mom * Partner * Writer * Educator * A Lover Not A Fighter
Lucky Tomaszek, LM, CPM
Lucky is a licensed midwife in the state of Wisconsin. Way back in 1984, at the tender age of 11, Lucky watched her cat give birth to her first litter of kittens. From that moment, she knew she belonged in the world of birth. Twelve years later, she began pursuing her dream through self study. In 1998, Lucky trained to be a doula, and was certified by DONA in 1999. That was also the year that Lucky became a La Leche League Leader. After the birth of her third baby in 2000, she began training with a homebirth midwife in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Since those early beginnings, Lucky has attended more than 300 births in various capacities. Recently, Lucky spent six months in Utah, working in a high volume birth center to finely hone her craft.
Lucky also works as a sexuality educator at The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique (since 2008), providing education and trainings for birthworkers and regular folks alike on a variety of topics. Her classes focus on consent culture, sex and disability, sex and chronic pain, and the issues that parents face around sexuality. She has been invited to speak at colleges, universities, churches, synagogues, festivals, burlesque shows, and professional development conferences throughout the Midwest. She is the author and founder of the Birthworker Inclusivity Training Series, the only training focused on the needs of sexual minorities. Lucky is also a published author, formerly writing The Slightly Crunchy Parent, a monthly parenting column (2002-2009), and currently writing MKE SEX, a semi-monthly sex ed column (since 2016).
Lucky lives in Milwaukee's Riverwest neighborhood with her partner and their cat, and enjoys the active community all around her. When not teaching, writing, and attending births, Lucky loves spending time with her adult children, needle felting for stress relief, and reading books cuddled up on her couch.
"My baby is 16… You were at his birth at our house, but I was sort of inside myself at that time so I don't exactly remember the details of when you arrived and left. I'm a midwife too, and I was then. A skilled midwife can guard normal and keep the people safe while not drawing attention to herself, so please consider it a compliment that I know you were there but don't remember what you said or did exactly. I pushed out an almost 9 pound baby and felt triumphant and proud… I can't stand it when midwives have some sort of codependent relationship with patients whereby the midwife is seen as some sort of goddess who will help a beautiful mother have a beautiful birth. That's not real all the time. I like that you always seem REAL. You're legit and not egocentric and that's what mothers need. Mothering is hard and midwifery is too. A good midwife must be able to tell a woman what she might not want to hear. Believing in the strength of women and the normalcy of childbirth is essential to midwifery, but giving false reassurance or failing to react when something isn't normal is betrayal in a way. I would recommend you because I know you're smart and caring, and I also believe you reliably remain in reality." ~L.E.